Ethical Bean has been supporting the Adoptive Families Association of BC since 2006, helping to raise adoption awareness in the province. This November, a portion of the proceeds from each bag of coffee sold will help AFABC find a family for every child. Read April O’Neil’s personal journey with adoption:
Life with my mom has been an interesting rollercoaster. Technically, it’s only been three years since I was adopted at the age of 16, but the last three years have felt like a lifetime and I simply cannot imagine it being any other way. When I think about it, I can’t believe that I was “okay,” with my life in foster care. I truly had no idea what I was missing. That’s not to say that things haven’t been difficult.
In all honesty, being adopted has been the most challenging experience in my life. While I’ve attempted to change my mindset, break down walls and accept the protective and loving nature which comes with the territory of having a mom, I still wonder, “why me?”
The process of switching from an independent, hard-headed teen in survival mode to a young adult who openly accepts guidance and love has been the cause of many arguments and heart wrenching fights between my mom and me. It has been difficult for me to understand how easily she loves and accepts me, and it is difficult for her, because she knows I don’t understand. She wants nothing more than for me to experience the warmth and joy that being in a family has brought her, and I am constantly challenging that, but I’m eternally grateful for her refusal to give up on me.
These are now times when I can’t imagine being without my family. As for that question of why, I still don’t fully understand. Why did she choose me? And how can she love me so easily? Although she has attempted to explain this to me (several times), I’m not sure if I will ever really understand. But I’m okay with that. I’ve learnt to accept this as an amazing fact of life that I am so incredibly thankful for. No matter what, somebody loves me. And, honestly, what more can a girl ask for?